Grant Hudson, Greenfields school head teacher: “When you get into bargaining about these things [with your children], you also surrender your personal power and fail to maintain your personal values.”
Grant Hudson, Greenfields school head teacher: “Knowing what your own values and morals are and living by them is another way to set clear guidelines for your child.”
WTF? Grant, you sound so reasonable. What you have not understood at all is that life is not just about your personal integrity. Isn’t it about the child’s integrity as well? Isn’t communication better than playing dictator for the sake of your own (and really just yours) integrity. And you call yourself head teacher? That hurts!
There were times when “Child Dianetics” were spreading soft words of empathy. Nothing is left it seems.
Scientology uses the abbreviation ARC instead of love, which means in practice: “Cause fear to control someone and pretend to do the opposite.”
Below are the Grant’s own wordings. Imagine, how children are treated in his vicinity. Please, do not send your children there. They obviously become Ronbots in no time, spending all their spare time to find your hidden evil purposes and never trust in love or passion.
Grant Hudson, you are such a poor guy. How was your childhood? How was your brainwash in the Scientology cult? It must have been pretty overwhelming. I guess you never saw children agreeing on something just because they like and trust you. When you truly love children, they automatically do everything in their power to not disappoint you. LRH once said that the best control is agreement. But he most likely did not mean to make people agree with you forcefully … am I wrong?
Grant, your attitude “I know better and therefore I am your dictator” sucks! With knowledge comes responsibility and not a 3rd Reich. Do you know any democratic values? No wonder your children are out of control and need a shit load of counter intention and counter effort.
Here is Grant’s email, full of love:
Dealing with Teenagers
by Head Teacher, Greenfields School
Does your teenage child communicate to you until you finally just give in?
“Okay, okay, I’ll let you go out if you stop bothering me about it.”
“If you do your homework on time, I’ll let you go to the sleepover even though it’s against my better judgement.”
“I told you yesterday that he couldn’t come over, but I’ll let it go just this once.”
When you say “No”, do you really mean “Maybe”?
Sometimes, to make your own lives easier or because you want to be “friends” with your child (and sometimes because you might feel guilt or shame about something from the past) you might fall into the trap of bargaining with your child in an unworkable way.
When you are unclear about which rules are negotiable and which are non-negotiable, this kind of bargaining can occur. It may resolve an immediate conflict, but can also indicate that you are losing your authority.
As a parent, you have the experience, knowledge, and wisdom to keep your kids safe and make good decisions for your children. Of course, there are times when it is appropriate to negotiate and compromise with teenagers. Where there is no potential harm, power can certainly be shared. Where there is the potential for harm, though, the matter should be non-negotiable.
For younger children, choosing which friends they have sleepovers with, what parties they can attend, or how late they can stay out at night should not be open for negotiation or discussion. Nor should a young child be allowed to choose not to go to school.
When you get into bargaining about these things, you also surrender your personal power and fail to maintain your personal values.
Deciding which rules are negotiable and which are non-negotiable and sticking to this is a first step. Knowing what your own values and morals are and living by them is another way to set clear guidelines for your child.
For more information concerning moral choices see ‘The Way to Happiness’, a moral non-religious code used by millions of people:
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